Coping with grief
In 2014, Nirit returned to study to pursue her second degree in sociology. As part of her studies, she sought to explore in-depth the unique characteristics of bereaved siblings and their ways of coping with grief.
In her research, Nirit described the inherent feeling during her childhood that “there was a profound sense of isolation, as if the whole world was on one side of the river, and we were on the other.” A representative from the “OneFamily” organization approached her and said in a few but precise words, “You should know that you are not alone. Whatever you need, we are here for you.”
Nirit delved deeply into the experiences of bereaved siblings from various angles, with a focus on three key aspects: a feeling of powerlessness, where they struggle to truly understand and accept the meaning of their sibling’s death; a sense of otherness in relation to other family members, feeling different regarding the mourning of their parents; and a lack of authenticity in their relationships with friends, where they put up a facade to avoid pity.
Nirit summarized that the main conclusion from her research is that bereaved siblings navigate through a world with a feeling of transparency. “In ‘OneFamily,’ my children were not transparent,” says Nirit. “It was a place that accepted them exactly as they are, a place where they could be authentic and connect with other bereaved siblings who share their experiences, feelings, and struggles as one family. ‘OneFamily’ helps them find a safe and loving place, which helps them cope with and absorb their loss.”
All the young people in “OneFamily” share the same feelings and experiences, thereby giving each other tremendous energy of acceptance and love.